What I Learned on My Early 20's

August 10, 2017

Don’t you realize we’ve reached more than half of 2017? Time is seriously passing by, and by the end of this year I’m also going to turn 23. It still feels like yesterday when I just celebrated my 17th and now I’m on my mid-early 20’s.

It’s crazy how many things are changed, life never stop to surprise me. The older I get, the more I discover my self. I’ve found new interest, new people, new expectation, and of course new goals. As the time goes by, I get some, yet I lose some.

I know how it feels when you reached your 20’s. Everything is different, the urge of settle down on life, find a nice job, to have a nice family in the future, I feel that too. There are times I wish I could stop the time, directly jump into the future and go back to the past all over again, simply to make sure everything is going well and stay on the right track.

Well, turns out life doesn’t work that way. Our journey meant to be something that teach us how precious time is, and how each moment should be cherished.  “Live your life to the fullest ” does really exist. I don’t have the same interest when I was 17 and I didn’t wish I could make up every failure, but there are certain things that I learned during these life coaster and I wish I could share to my kids in the future.

  1. You don’t need to worry so much about life. Live in the present. Sometimes all you can do is no more other than do your best and follow where life takes you. Of course, you still need to plan for your future, but try to remember how many times life messed up your plan and take you to another path? which led you to something better. Isn’t it amazing?
  2. Be you. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. Why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out? No one said you should be a doctor or lawyer in order to be success, and no one said you should graduate on 21, settle on 25, and married after that. People create their own timeline based on what usually people around them do. For me, I learned that everyone and everything has their own time. You don’t need to rush on everything, it is always better to do it when you are prepared, not because you are forced to do. I notice that parents have biggest involve in our life especially us Asians, they tend to organize what their kids should do. It is good to listen on their opinion, but remember that it is NOT your job to fulfill their dream.
  3. Go wherever your heart takes you. Do something you love and passionate about, get out from your comfort zone! There is no word such “late” if you want to learn something new. I am a fashion design graduated, during my college life, all I had to do are designing, drawing, sewing, pattern making and once in a while do presentation. I knew from the start that this wasn’t for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love fashion and I love to be creative but these process aren’t for me. I was really struggling back then, and had to question my self many times. What is my  real passion? What do I want to do for my life? Did I make the right choice ? Until I found a hobby called content creating, where I can express my interest and be truly enjoy with what I do. This is also one of the reason why I am doing blog and Youtube. It’s not for fame or money, but simply I do enjoy it. In the future, I would like to have a job that allows me to be creative, informative and meet many people from all over the world. Oh yes, I love to learn new languages as well!
  4. It’s okay to make mistakes. How often we miss our chance to do what we want to do from a very long time just because we are scared we might fail? Did you realize, looking back, we have done so many mistakes in our life actually and those make us what we are today? Try to think that mistakes are not a failure, but it’s an opportunity to get better. If you hate your job, than quit soon. How about we change ” What if? ” and ” Should I?” into ” Okay, I will try.”
  5. Happiness is a very personal thing and it has nothing to do with anyone. When loneliness attack, try to think it is the time for you to get some ME time or hang out with friends. You can always see that as a chance to improve your self both physically and mentally. Why don’t you take language class that you’re interest at? or simply go to salon to have a simple treatment to make you look prettier? I learned that I am responsible for my own happiness. I don’t want to rely on someone, and then blame them when I find my self unhappy.
  6. Don’t set your standard based on what you’ve seen from social media. I want to remind that we never know the truth behind someone’s Instagram. Lovey-dovey looking couple might fight everyday, a person with branded stuffs might do that in order to be accepted in their social community, and someone who travels here and there with no purpose might use that as an excuse to run away from their problems. Don’t use social media to impress people, but to impact people.

There are a lot of things that I’m still learning yet I’m excited to find about,  but I hope by sharing these to you all, you know that you are not alone. Million young people feel what you and me actually feel. 20’S is your selfish time, so don’t give your self hard times by overthinking. Always be grateful and happy, give what’s best from you, for the other things that meant to be will eventually find it’s own way.

Have a blessed day!


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